I think as long as you don't keep anything from each other it's fine. You'll probably laugh at me of all people talking about honesty, but you're the one who made this commitment, not me. Best thing to do is not blow it by pushing him away.
Consider compromises, too. If there are certain people he doesn't like, or you don't like, maybe talk about it. I've had to think of things since my sister got here. Things like, "what would I do if the boy she liked showed up?" I'd probably run. Every time I saw him, every time his voice reached my ears, I would run. Even if it meant consequences or falling in bed with someone more embarrassing.
And if he and I ever fight to the point he doesn't want me around you, then I can do that for you too. If you'd both want that.
[ Nnnnnnngh. He's been sprawled out over the mess of his bed, and that reply merits a little pause while he squirms around, scuffing a hand through his hair in frustration. How the hell do girls talk about this shit all the time. He already feels a bit like he's going to die, trying to put all this stuff into words. He's never talking about this stuff with anyone again after this. ]
you're getting the wrong idea here yeah if he hates someone i'll avoid them duh but i don't think he minds you and he told me first he doesn't care about me doing stuff with other people like even before we actually became a thing but just because something's allowed doesn't mean it feels good i just figured if i ever started dating someone i'd do it properly you know and being exclusive feels like the basics for that
i'm not worried he's gonna get mad at me i'm worried i could have done things better wouldn't you feel the same if you got into something with someone here
No, I wouldn't feel the same. However that's probably because I would never have anything better to offer. Anyone with interest in me is truly unfortunate.
Developing feelings for a mage either means letting them go or subjecting yourself to their world. I don't think many people would accept what a pain it would be to endure that.
okay but can you fucking pretend for a second here let's say you find someone who's okay with all your weird mage shit and they say they really like you and they sound serious about it and even if it sounds insane they seem to mean it what then huh
Then we'd both just survive this place as best as possible and I'd have them come with me back to my home? I'm not really bothered by what happens here unless they try to be best friends with someone I'm mortal enemies with.
I'm just the kind of person who can't stand looking back. I always have a goal or I'm moving forward. Dwelling on the past will just eat me up, and I'll never get to where I want to be. Or be happy with who I want to be with, if I had a person like that.
I know you look back a lot. I think that's why I wanted to convince you to learn cooking. Having a goal or working on improving something helps a person move forward. If you stay in place and look back things won't get better. You'll only see what you already can't change.
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Consider compromises, too. If there are certain people he doesn't like, or you don't like, maybe talk about it. I've had to think of things since my sister got here. Things like, "what would I do if the boy she liked showed up?" I'd probably run. Every time I saw him, every time his voice reached my ears, I would run. Even if it meant consequences or falling in bed with someone more embarrassing.
And if he and I ever fight to the point he doesn't want me around you, then I can do that for you too. If you'd both want that.
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you're getting the wrong idea here
yeah if he hates someone i'll avoid them duh
but i don't think he minds you
and he told me first he doesn't care about me doing stuff with other people
like even before we actually became a thing
but just because something's allowed doesn't mean it feels good
i just figured if i ever started dating someone i'd do it properly you know
and being exclusive feels like the basics for that
i'm not worried he's gonna get mad at me
i'm worried i could have done things better
wouldn't you feel the same if you got into something with someone here
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Developing feelings for a mage either means letting them go or subjecting yourself to their world. I don't think many people would accept what a pain it would be to endure that.
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let's say you find someone who's okay with all your weird mage shit
and they say they really like you
and they sound serious about it
and even if it sounds insane they seem to mean it
what then huh
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then doesn't that also go for the person you found here?
you make it sound so simple
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I know you look back a lot. I think that's why I wanted to convince you to learn cooking. Having a goal or working on improving something helps a person move forward. If you stay in place and look back things won't get better. You'll only see what you already can't change.