yeah that's what i told him [ in a fashion ... ] but he doesn't care i guess dumbass nutjob basically said he'd rather risk him or his boyfriend getting turned into a statue over cheating
Is it even really cheating if you're emotionally exclusive? Even if I've slept with you it's not like we go on little dates or grab flowers for each other or do little exclusive holiday retreats. Cheating implies deception.
I hope they both turn into statues if that's how it is.
Of course not! It's not like we want to be here, or have any measure of control when the house decides to influence us. It'd be like blaming a victim. Would you blame someone for having drugs in their system if some random dude jumped out from around a corner and injected them before running off?
Think about it like this: if someone enjoys spending time with your and cares about you... do you think they'd want them to become a statue? That comes with so many extra worries. What if a guest breaks the statue's limb? What if weirdos try getting off by humping the statue when you're not around? What kind of horrors does someone who is turned to stone suffer through while they're petrified like that?
Screw anyone who tries to put some twisted sense of "purity" before the well being of someone they're supposed to care about. No world can work on some absolute morality. Maybe it's because I was raised as a mage, but I don't care about breaking common notions of good or bad to survive.
i know that i get all that it just still doesn't feel right you know i think risking it and avoiding playing the games with other people is stupid i'd never ask that of anyone but it still feels scummy it's not like i wanted to have to do this kind of shit wouldn't it bother you a bit too?
I'm not sure if I can help. No, it doesn't bother me. But neither you nor the person you like agree with how I handle my relationships. Aren't I the worst person to ask?
I'm not trying to avoid your question. I just don't think I have any answers to help you. If you still want my opinions I'll give them.
you think i wanna talk about this kinda stuff with just anyone? i don't even really like people knowing i'm in a relationship at all i'm not trying to hide it or anything but it just feels weird talking about it i'm asking you because you already know about it
[ Just that at first. Then it occurs to him that he can kill two birds with one stone here -- added reason for Rin to answer him, but also, fulfill something he told Dabi he'd do: ]
and because you're my friend
[ ... still feels embarrassing to type, though. He hurries to add afterward: ]
I think as long as you don't keep anything from each other it's fine. You'll probably laugh at me of all people talking about honesty, but you're the one who made this commitment, not me. Best thing to do is not blow it by pushing him away.
Consider compromises, too. If there are certain people he doesn't like, or you don't like, maybe talk about it. I've had to think of things since my sister got here. Things like, "what would I do if the boy she liked showed up?" I'd probably run. Every time I saw him, every time his voice reached my ears, I would run. Even if it meant consequences or falling in bed with someone more embarrassing.
And if he and I ever fight to the point he doesn't want me around you, then I can do that for you too. If you'd both want that.
[ Nnnnnnngh. He's been sprawled out over the mess of his bed, and that reply merits a little pause while he squirms around, scuffing a hand through his hair in frustration. How the hell do girls talk about this shit all the time. He already feels a bit like he's going to die, trying to put all this stuff into words. He's never talking about this stuff with anyone again after this. ]
you're getting the wrong idea here yeah if he hates someone i'll avoid them duh but i don't think he minds you and he told me first he doesn't care about me doing stuff with other people like even before we actually became a thing but just because something's allowed doesn't mean it feels good i just figured if i ever started dating someone i'd do it properly you know and being exclusive feels like the basics for that
i'm not worried he's gonna get mad at me i'm worried i could have done things better wouldn't you feel the same if you got into something with someone here
No, I wouldn't feel the same. However that's probably because I would never have anything better to offer. Anyone with interest in me is truly unfortunate.
Developing feelings for a mage either means letting them go or subjecting yourself to their world. I don't think many people would accept what a pain it would be to endure that.
okay but can you fucking pretend for a second here let's say you find someone who's okay with all your weird mage shit and they say they really like you and they sound serious about it and even if it sounds insane they seem to mean it what then huh
Then we'd both just survive this place as best as possible and I'd have them come with me back to my home? I'm not really bothered by what happens here unless they try to be best friends with someone I'm mortal enemies with.
I'm just the kind of person who can't stand looking back. I always have a goal or I'm moving forward. Dwelling on the past will just eat me up, and I'll never get to where I want to be. Or be happy with who I want to be with, if I had a person like that.
I know you look back a lot. I think that's why I wanted to convince you to learn cooking. Having a goal or working on improving something helps a person move forward. If you stay in place and look back things won't get better. You'll only see what you already can't change.
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but he doesn't care i guess
dumbass nutjob
basically said he'd rather risk him or his boyfriend getting turned into a statue
over cheating
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I hope they both turn into statues if that's how it is.
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you really think all the stuff here doesn't count as cheating?
seriously?
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Think about it like this: if someone enjoys spending time with your and cares about you... do you think they'd want them to become a statue? That comes with so many extra worries. What if a guest breaks the statue's limb? What if weirdos try getting off by humping the statue when you're not around? What kind of horrors does someone who is turned to stone suffer through while they're petrified like that?
Screw anyone who tries to put some twisted sense of "purity" before the well being of someone they're supposed to care about. No world can work on some absolute morality. Maybe it's because I was raised as a mage, but I don't care about breaking common notions of good or bad to survive.
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i get all that
it just still doesn't feel right you know
i think risking it and avoiding playing the games with other people is stupid
i'd never ask that of anyone
but it still feels scummy
it's not like i wanted to have to do this kind of shit
wouldn't it bother you a bit too?
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I'm not trying to avoid your question. I just don't think I have any answers to help you. If you still want my opinions I'll give them.
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i don't even really like people knowing i'm in a relationship at all
i'm not trying to hide it or anything
but it just feels weird talking about it
i'm asking you because you already know about it
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and because you're my friend
[ ... still feels embarrassing to type, though. He hurries to add afterward: ]
so gimme your opinions
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Consider compromises, too. If there are certain people he doesn't like, or you don't like, maybe talk about it. I've had to think of things since my sister got here. Things like, "what would I do if the boy she liked showed up?" I'd probably run. Every time I saw him, every time his voice reached my ears, I would run. Even if it meant consequences or falling in bed with someone more embarrassing.
And if he and I ever fight to the point he doesn't want me around you, then I can do that for you too. If you'd both want that.
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you're getting the wrong idea here
yeah if he hates someone i'll avoid them duh
but i don't think he minds you
and he told me first he doesn't care about me doing stuff with other people
like even before we actually became a thing
but just because something's allowed doesn't mean it feels good
i just figured if i ever started dating someone i'd do it properly you know
and being exclusive feels like the basics for that
i'm not worried he's gonna get mad at me
i'm worried i could have done things better
wouldn't you feel the same if you got into something with someone here
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Developing feelings for a mage either means letting them go or subjecting yourself to their world. I don't think many people would accept what a pain it would be to endure that.
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let's say you find someone who's okay with all your weird mage shit
and they say they really like you
and they sound serious about it
and even if it sounds insane they seem to mean it
what then huh
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then doesn't that also go for the person you found here?
you make it sound so simple
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I know you look back a lot. I think that's why I wanted to convince you to learn cooking. Having a goal or working on improving something helps a person move forward. If you stay in place and look back things won't get better. You'll only see what you already can't change.